9 Tips to Overcome Challenges during the Holidays

The holiday season can be a time of joy and togetherness but it can also be a time of stress, conflict and family tension. If you want to avoid conflicts in your relationship, here are 9 tips to overcome challenges during the holidays.

▪ Keep your expectations realistic 
We tend to over-idealize the holidays which only leads to disappointment. If you have a gift in mind do not set your partner up for failure, let them know what you want.

▪ Always approach family events as a team 
Make sure you are putting your own family first. Dealing with In-laws can be stressful.Your partner needs to know that you are committed to him/her first and they are the priority.

▪ Talk to your partner about finances and create a budget together 
Make sure your finances are not stressing you out. Discuss how much you want to spend on each other and family so you are both on the same page.

▪ Setting boundaries to avoid arguments 
Having a plan in place to avoid conflict is always helpful. Agree to take a time out allowing you both to cool off before conversations escalate into arguments. Schedule a time to continue the discussion when you are both feeling calm and ready.

▪ Create new traditions 
Pick a tradition that better suits your lifestyle today instead of one from your childhood. Doing this with your partner with remind them how important they are to you and will strengthen your relationship.

* Learn to assert your needs and say “no” 
Some of us have a hard time saying no so we don’t upset others. Do not agree to something that you aren’t going to be happy with. This will end up upsetting you and can easily put stress on your relationship..

▪ Acknowledge your feelings The holidays tend to trigger grief reactions of loved ones that we lost. It’s important to be aware of your reactions. Make sure you grieve or help your partner work through their grief reactions..

* Slow down and practice self care 
Carve out at least 15 minutes to unwind and relax each day-do something you enjoy and take care of yourself. Make a list if you have too. Try to prevent doing too much and stressing yourself out.

* Plan Date Nights 
Try to carve out time together and do things you both enjoy. Make sure you and your partner are sustaining the romance and intimacy in your relationship.

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