Relationship Counseling NYC: 5 Signs Healing is Happening (& Better Relationships Are on the Horizon)

Relationship Counseling NYC: 5 Signs Healing is Happening (& Better Relationships Are on the Horizon)

Have you been doing the work of emotional healing? Are you looking at your past, habits, and attachment style in the hopes of eventually attracting the kinds of people and relationships you want?

Congratulations! Emotional healing is rarely a linear process. You should feel good for embracing a new future.

Of course, you likely know by now that the road to self-awareness and change is challenging and filled with opportunities for introspection and reflection. You aren’t alone if you’ve taken a step back from dating or socializing to work through past experiences and emotional wounds.

Yet, you may now wonder whether enough healing has happened to support new connections. Is there a way to know?

Yes, relationship therapy is a beneficial way to hone in on your relationship needs and wants. Safely working through insights about your relationship history is invaluable. In addition, there are some basic indicators of emotional healing too. The following signs are encouraging evidence that you are becoming more self-aware and diligently laying the groundwork for healthy connections.

Relationship Counseling NYC: 5 Signs Your Healing is Happening 

1. You embrace and respect your whole self. 

Self-acceptance is key to the kind of authenticity that leads to healthy relationships. Extending yourself the kind of love, approval, and encouragement you long to experience from others is crucial. And sometimes, depending on your history, it takes time to get there. 

You know you are healing and capable of healthier connections when you’ve learned to accept all the parts of yourself that make you unique. Even those you consider negative or undesirable. Your internal work has released you from the shame and low self-esteem that led to toxic relationships and further emotional damage.

Healing is often a matter of embracing your perceived imperfections and offering yourself compassion and second chances. You know you are worthy of love, belonging, and hope and are willing to say so.

2. You can talk about your story with less pain and more positivity.

Unfortunately, trauma is not a unique experience. Most of us have pivotal moments or experiences in our past that hurt or hindered us. You know healing is happening when you can accept and put those hurts in perspective. 

Are you able to soothe the anxiety, anger, or other feelings and behaviors that have impacted your connections? If so, you likely have some internal tools that will make growth and moving forward with others more successful. If not, relationship counseling can help you cope and recover.

3. Your feelings are routinely acknowledged and shared (not stuffed, minimized, or avoided).

Before you started looking inward, emotions may have felt terribly unreliable or uncontrollable. Perhaps you simply pushed them away or relied on logic and distance to keep yourself safe. Maybe this led to loneliness, short-lived relationships, or confusing, repetitive conflicts with loved ones. 

You know your healing well when you can make room for your emotions, validate them, and allow them to be what they are, how they are. You can tell yourself that it’s okay to be uncomfortable and value the experience for what it is. When you can move on without hurting connections, shaming yourself, or blaming others, your relationship prospects brighten.

4. You want out of the box.

Healing makes you brave. Your former comfort zone of withdrawal, fear, or controlling behavior feels confining. If you’ve started to think outside your internal boxes and hope for more, consider it a good sign. Even better, if you find yourself doing things that once scared you, you may be ready to reach out, go on a date, or reconnect with (healthy) people you love and miss.

5. Disappointment doesn’t define you or your process.

When you are healing, you know that brighter days are ahead, even if today is dark. When you’re stuck and not healing, disappointment derails you and makes you double everything and everyone. 

In other words, you get that you won’t feel good every day. Upsetting things happen, but they don’t last. You can accept things as they are and respond communicatively and creatively. Less turmoil and reactivity make room for more connection and interaction. 

Relationship Counseling NYC: Seek Support to Heal Completely

When it comes down to it, only you know when you are ready to pursue and commit to a relationship. It’s true that your own effort and willingness to seek change are vital. Yet, you don’t have to heal without support. 

Healing happens when you recognize that to recover thoroughly and productively, compassionate care and trustworthy guidance matter. Don’t go it alone. Start a relationship with a therapist. Someone experienced in relationship counseling can help you mindfully move forward and set goals for your future. You deserve the time and attention.

Please learn more about our Relationship Counseling services. We are here to help.  

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