Are You Wondering If Your Marriage Or Relationship Can Survive Infidelity?
- Did your partner have an affair, leaving you feeling devastated?
- Or did you have an affair and now struggle with intense guilt and regret?
- Are anger, resentment, and despair making it nearly impossible to discuss the betrayal?
You may be wondering if healing can even occur, given the damage that has been done to the relationship. No matter how or why it happens, infidelity compromises trust—the foundation of any romantic bond. Now that painful secrets have come to light, both you and your partner may be worried that your relationship can’t survive.
If your partner has betrayed you, you may be overwhelmed with anger, shame and blame, and other emotions that have caused you to feel that your world has turned upside down. You may worry that your partner is no longer recognizable to you and that you will never salvage the connection you once had. The sense of security and stability that once defined your relationship has disappeared.
An Affair Can Wound Both Partners
On the other hand, if you’re the partner who engaged in extramarital behavior, you may have a hard time facing yourself. Heavily impacted by guilt and shame, you may not be able to fully understand your emotions or rationale, and it’s possible you’re not sure what drove you to do something that hurt your partner.
Determined to repair the damage caused by your betrayal, you may wonder how your relationship will be able to recover from an affair. And though infidelity can create obstacles in a relationship, counseling makes healing possible. With affair recovery at The Relationship Suite, you and your partner can learn to reconnect and move forward together.
Affairs Are More Common Than You Think
In our culture, infidelity often contributes to a profound sense of shame, which prevents couples from openly discussing their betrayals. This causes both partners to feel isolated and overwhelmed as they try to cope and reconcile.
But the truth is that if your relationship has been affected by infidelity, you are not alone. The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy estimates that around 15 percent of married women and 25 percent of married men have had an affair. And when you factor emotional infidelity into the data (i.e., an affair without intercourse), the statistic rises by at least 20 percent.
Not only do affairs result in profound feelings of confusion, anger, and guilt for both partners—they also cause tremendous strain and disconnect within the relationship. This can lead couples to believe that dealing with the fallout of an affair is futile and that forgiveness is unachievable.
Yet, betrayal does not necessarily mean the end of your relationship. Surviving an affair is possible—we’ve seen many couples do it. If you’re willing to attend infidelity counseling with honesty and communication, you can see that reconciliation is within your reach as you use this obstacle to reinvent your relationship and strengthen your connection.
Affair Recovery Promotes Healing And Helps You Rebuild Trust
While feelings of shame may have kept you from opening up or exploring your feelings about the affair, it’s important to know that therapy is a safe, non-judgmental atmosphere where you and your partner can come together to process, grieve, and heal.
Our clinicians are not interested in blaming one partner and absolving the other but rather providing you both with the perspective and clarity you need to overcome infidelity. Even if you’re still unsure of why the betrayal happened in the first place, your clinician will help you understand what motivated your decisions and response.
The Therapeutic Process At The Relationship Suite
The first step toward affair recovery is making the joint decision with your partner to commit to counseling. By doing the work and investing in one another, you can successfully rebuild the trust in your relationship.
Infidelity counseling will begin the healing process by bringing the two of you together to get a sense of your relationship’s history, communication style, and the betrayal. If it’s determined that one or both of you could benefit from individual counseling, we will create a treatment plan that can facilitate healing after an affair.
Our therapists in New York and New Jersey are seasoned couples counselors who have helped many relationships recover from an affair. Using highly effective therapeutic approaches—including Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Imago Therapy, among others—you can learn how to develop more compassion, empathy, and understanding of yourselves and each other. And by strengthening your communication and coping skills, you can develop increased awareness and learn to problem-solve in all aspects of your marriage or relationship.
Though it takes time and commitment to re-establish trust, it is possible to reacquaint yourselves with one another and strengthen your bond. By being open, honest, and willing with your partner, healing after an affair is possible. With the support of a skilled, empathetic, and objective therapist in affair recovery, you can create new prospects for the relationship that you didn’t even know existed.
Maybe You’re Wondering If Infidelity Counseling Can Save Your Relationship, But You Still Have Questions…
Won’t affair recovery just do more damage to our relationship?
The goal of therapy is never to make things worse. Instead, it’s to allow you and your partner to come into a calm, neutral space where you can gain clarity and a new understanding of your relationship.
If you don’t address the affair, you can’t repair the wounds it has left behind. This process can be painful but burying your feelings will only make them fester and grow, leading to conflict, resentment, and separation. Identifying and working through infidelity can be instrumental in helping you both move toward lasting healing.
I’m worried I’ll be criticized and blamed in affair recovery.
At The Relationship Suite in New York City and New Jersey, you’ll find a safe and non-judgmental environment that will facilitate healing. Our trained, objective clinicians can help you create the boundaries and support needed to address the infidelity, offering you more effective ways to communicate your feelings. Once you have the right tools, you can move safely into the depths of the affair and why it happened—that’s where true recovery begins.
Coping with infidelity is certainly difficult, but you don’t have to do this alone. The goal is for you and your partner to learn how to resolve conflict and understand each other on a deeper level. You can then begin to establish renewed safety and security within your relationship.
We’ve already tried counseling—what makes The Relationship Suite different?
Our therapeutic approaches are highly effective and typically geared toward couples in particular. While many other counseling methods focus on behavioral changes, our treatments place emotions at the center so that you and your partner can better understand and empathize with one another’s feelings, past wounds, and trauma. If you’ve never tried EFT or Imago Therapy before, you’ll likely be surprised by the results.
We have seen many couples in New York and New Jersey be successful in surviving an affair, and we believe the same is possible for you.
You Can Strengthen And Heal Your Relationship
If you and your partner struggle with lingering anger, resentment, guilt, or confusion following a betrayal, affair recovery at The Relationship Suite in New York and New Jersey can help you understand one another and move forward together.
To schedule a free consultation or find out more about how to recover from an affair, please call (917) 273 – 8836 or contact us.
