Have You Made The Difficult Decision To End Your Marriage?
- Are you struggling to move forward after a divorce?
- Or are you currently in the process of getting a divorce and encountering the painful emotions that come with grieving a relationship?
- Do you worry that your experience will prevent you from trusting others or maintaining healthy relationships in the future?
Making the decision to end a marriage is a painful process. If you’re the partner who initiated the divorce, you may be struggling with feelings of guilt, anger, and regret. And if, on the other hand, you’ve discovered that your partner is seeking a permanent separation, you may be feeling abandoned and betrayed.
No matter who serves the papers, divorce is stressful for everyone involved. In grieving the end of your marriage, you’re likely experiencing loneliness, fear, and overwhelm. Unsure of when the breakdown occurred or who is responsible for the end of the relationship, you may be unable to effectively communicate or process your emotions without help.
You And Your Partner Are Probably Not The Only Ones Struggling Through Separation And Divorce
The end of your marriage is more than just the loss of a relationship—your home life has likely changed drastically, especially if there are children involved. It’s possible that during the divorce, your environment has been stressful and chaotic, resulting in daily conflict, tension, and misunderstanding. No matter where you are in the process, you may be wondering how to talk to your kids about the divorce and foster mutual support as a family.
But there are options for relief and repair. Divorce counseling for both couples and individuals allows spouses going through separation or divorce to improve communication, nurture healthy dialogue, and heal. By moving forward emotionally and learning how to co-parent peacefully, you can end your marriage in a healthy, productive way.
It’s Normal To Mourn The Loss Of A Relationship
Grief is a natural reaction to loss, and people who experience a breakup or divorce go through the grieving process. Multiple losses occur within the breakup of a relationship, including the loss of companionship, shared dreams, and a vision of the future together. In order to heal, it’s important to feel the pain and move through sadness, anger, guilt, and the other emotions associated with grief.
Not to mention, divorce often involves frustrating disagreement and stressful legal battles that create tension between spouses. Partners need to set ground rules for constructively engaging and making decisions. And while this process can be contentious, it’s possible for separations and divorces to be collaborative.
By improving communication skills, learning ways to manage stress, and developing a plan for moving forward, you can create a hopeful future for your family–and for yourselves as individuals.
Counseling Provides You With Guidance As You Navigate Separation And Divorce
When your home environment is fractured, tense, and chaotic, it can be challenging to identify and express what you’re experiencing. By working with a therapist who specializes in divorce counseling, you have a chance to process your emotions in a safe, calm, and empathetic atmosphere where you can rebuild your life.
Our team in New York and New Jersey is here to offer you guidance and support as you cope with this transition. Whether you’re an individual grieving the relationship or a couple in need of help as you navigate divorce proceedings and issues of co-parenting, we will create a plan forward that honors your strengths and goals for the future. In addition, we offer virtual Divorce Recovery group therapy that provides community, support, and shared perspective for individuals struggling through the loss of their relationship.
Therapy Can Expedite Healing After Divorce, Preparing You For New Possibilities
At The Relationship Suite, we tend to take an emotionally focused approach that gives you an opportunity to identify and verbalize feelings, develop skills for coping, and increase communication. This can help you to de-escalate conflict with your ex, gain a mutual understanding of each other’s experience, and improve your relationship with your children.
Beyond getting to a place of healing and acceptance following your divorce, we will also help you understand your role in the marriage. By acknowledging both the positive and negative ways that you contributed to the relationship, you will be able to face the future with confidence, knowing which patterns to embrace and which ones to avoid.
The more you take time to reflect on the effect you had on your relationship, the more you’ll be able to envision a healthy life full of new, exciting possibilities. And when you’re feeling centered and ready to move on after your marriage, counseling can provide you with the skills and emotional awareness to attract the healthy partnership you desire.
Healing after a divorce is a recovery process. It takes time, space, and skills-building. By working with a therapist in New York and New Jersey who specializes in separation and divorce counseling, you can gain the insight and awareness you need to move forward.
You May Be Wondering If Divorce Counseling Is Right For You…
Why are you comparing divorce to the grief process?
Going through a divorce is not unlike recovering from the death of a loved one. They both involve stages of grief and common emotions like denial, fear, anger, depression, and acceptance. The loss of a relationship can be a significant transition in your life and should be handled with care.
Therapy provides you with a safe atmosphere to learn skills for coping and processing the grief. And research demonstrates that counseling is effective for all forms of loss—including the end of a long-term marriage or relationship.
How do I know if I/we will benefit from divorce counseling?
If you’re feeling alone, distressed, and having a hard time navigating your divorce, counseling offers guidance and insight into your grief. By learning to cope with difficult emotions, you create a more peaceful environment at home.
On the other hand, if you’re a couple struggling to find common ground on certain legal and co-parenting aspects of your divorce, counseling can help you communicate, calmly assert your needs, and develop strategies for decision-making together.
Whether you need individual counseling, couples therapy following a breakup, or a divorce recovery support group, The Relationship Suite gives you a chance to find hope and healing as you grieve the loss of your relationship.
Can I see any counselor for therapy following a divorce?
While counselors are trained to help clients navigate mental health challenges and significant life transitions, it’s important to see a clinician who specializes in couples therapy—and it’s preferable to work with someone who has experience counseling partners who are going through a divorce.
Our practice emphasizes couples therapy, family issues, and communication skills. Because our clinicians have specialized training in relationships, they can offer help and support as you take valuable lessons from your marriage and create a new vision for your future.
The End Of Your Marriage Can Be The Beginning Of Something Else
You have the tools to rebuild your life. With divorce counseling at The Relationship Suite in New York and New Jersey, you can grieve your relationship and learn to harness your strengths toward a brighter future.
To schedule a free, 20-minute consultation with a therapist or to find out more about our divorce support groups, please call (917) 273 – 8836 or contact us via our site.
